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Don't over-complicate things

Mon Oct 13, 2008, 6:01 AM
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A problem I see among many people who have embarked on personal development journey - in whichever are of their life they choose improve - is that in becoming fully conscious of the aspects within that area (PUA for example) the trend is that most will tend to over-complicate the whole situation.

This idea applies to many different forms of personal development, but I will further explain it in terms of becoming successful with women.

In other words, by dedicating so much attention and energy to learning how to be successful with women, we cloud the issue with over-rationalization and too much thought. The side effects of this include nervousness/anxiety, going down the wrong path (usually as result of second guessing yourself), loss of intuition, dedicating too much thought to something that isn't complicated, wasting your time, and so on.

Contrary to what most guru's in the community would have you believe, there is no right way - there is a general wrong way - but in reality there is no right way to do things. Only a ball-park figure of what works, but for the most part this is a rather ambiguous thing outlined only lightly by a medley of tested social theories, attitude, situational factors, and accepted/unique patterns of behavior - among other things. With this in mind, you should feel liberated to take that playbook you've been clutching onto and studying endless and chuck it the fuck out the window. Click Read More (to continue)

I can say this, because I've seen both ends of the spectrum, extensively. Before discovering the PUA community, I had tremendous success with women from a very early age. Once I discovered the community I re-learned everything in depth, and became completely conscious of what I was doing. I strayed away from routines and methods, but I understood the theory behind it all and applied it to my life. Soon, I noticed that I was beginning to drive myself berserk with the endless amount of thought I was putting into everything. Instead of picking up the phone and calling when _I_ felt like it, I was waiting 3 days like a jerk-off because some other jerk-off declared some kind of golden rule. Instead of telling a woman how absolutely beautiful I thought she was, I was busy conjuring up new ways to neg her. And instead of learning to be real with people, I was learning how to manipulate them.

About 6 months ago, right around the time I launched my own personal development website, I came to the conclusion that while knowing this information certainly helped me, the way I was applying the knowledge was in fact detrimental to my persona. So I stepped back, keeping the rough outlines of what works in social situations, and began doing what I had done all along. And that was to be myself.

But now I knew one essential thing. People are people, there is no reason for all these rules and procedures for social interaction. No-one is going to hurt you, and if they do, thats only because you let them. Now, I have more success than ever with both men and women. I bought a girl I have been seeing for less than a week a nice arrangement of Oriental Lillys the other day. Is it because I'm a sucker? No. It's because I fucking felt like it, and she's a delight to be around. So why the fuck not? Did that make her think I was a chump? Of course it didn't. She jumped and smiled with joy and told me I just made her week. Which of course, is exactly what I wanted to do.

It's all about how you handle things. Keep it simple guys. With the right attitude, perspective, and ideas you can do anything you want. Don't concern yourself with all these guidelines, methods, routines and what have you. Find that ball-park figure, and once you do, embrace it. Then let it all go out the window. I've got dozens of stories of outrageous ways I've brought women into my life, and I can assure that not one of them starts with "Hey Ladies, can I get your opinion on something" (not that this won't work, because we all know it does)

Have faith in yourself, and just fucking do it. If you're nervous about this beautiful woman you see, GOOD! That means shes worth your time. So feel the fear and do it anyway. Life is all about 'just doing it'. So relax, throw your hands up, and enjoy the ride. And let the haters do the over-rationalization while they try to figure out why the women were more receptive to the guy who speaks his mind instead of them, the guys who rehearsed out a conversation ahead of time and are baffled at why it didn't go as planned.

Again, this lesson applies to all walks of life.

Free Hugs From Beautiful Girls

Sat Sep 13, 2008, 10:23 AM
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  • Drinking: You with Champagne
What a weekend! I'm amazed.

* Do you want free hugs from beautiful girls?

* Do you want women to tiptoe up to you at cafés and start asking
YOU questions?

* Do you want sudden high-fives and gushes of gratitude for being "a
real man"?

* Do you want women to take you by the arms and blurt, "thank GOD for
guys like you!"

It's easier than you think. In fact, it's ridiculously easy!
Listen...

Yesterday, I was standing on the stone veranda of a house high in
the Santa Monica Mountains with a bunch of people, just having
lunch and looking out at the rare clouds moving across the hills.

I sat by this 25 year old waif, a beautiful, slinky young actress
who was listening, bored and half-lidded, to a guy telling her
about how cool he was, how spiritual he was, what business and
charity boards he sat on.

She turned to me and asked, "hi, what do you do?"

I said that I'm devoted to an ongoing study and to teaching men how
to identify and stand in their most powerful masculinity and then
communicate it in a language to women that will touch their hearts.

She threw her arms around me and exclaimed, "I love this man!"

At that moment, dear reader, I loved her, too.

In fact, at that moment, I loved everybody.

A little while later, I found myself (surprise!) sitting next to a
lanky, long-haired yoga instructor - the elite kind that only
teaches privately. I opened the old fashioned way, by finding a
commonality and exploring it together.

The conversation flowed easily as she told me about the book she
was writing and then she asked what I did. Well, you know what I do
and you know what I said. Her eyes just opened wider and wider and
her first question...

"Do you know the work of David Deida?"

I answered, "I've read every single book he's written." Which is
true.

And - whoosh! - here came the hug -- and yoga girls really know how
to hug!

Her long slinky arms wrapped around me and then came the
exclamation, "I love you!"

And as I slowly inhaled the aromas rising from her organic
shampooed hair, dear reader, I promise you, I loved her, too.

She continued, excited, her eyes sparkling, "Before I get involved
with ANY guy, I hand him the book, "The Way of the Superior Man"
and make him read it. I tell him it's a user's guide for real
manhood."

Now, this is a stunning woman who dates serious celebrities and
jet-setters, but suddenly, I was the sole object of her
laser-focused, eye-sparkling, fascinated attention - because I had
taken the time to read this book she that found so important to
shaping a real man.

What are the lessons from yesterday's lunch?

1. That women are DEAD FRUSTRATED with 99% of guys.

2. That women are GRATEFUL for men who take the time and effort to
deepen their practice of being men, who spend their time learning
about women, learning how to be better men rather than sitting
around watching TV. It's the same lesson I learned
whenever I had the book, "The Female Brain" sitting on the café
table as I wrote and women tiptoed up to me to ask why I was
reading it. WOMEN CRAVE MEN WHO ARE IMPROVING THEIR SKILLS AND
KNOWLEDGE ABOUT MAN-WOMAN DYNAMICS. It shows you care, that you are
stepping up the manhood plate, that you are different and that you
are worth their attention.

Listen, two David D's changed my life.

David DeAngelo taught me five years ago how to trigger attraction.
David Deida taught me how to inspire something deeper: devotion.

He taught me to be a more powerful, purposeful, magnetic force of
certainty, lightness and strength.

This has become the mantra for the Grant Adams Trainings: Trigger
Attraction. Inspire Devotion. Two parts to true success.

Trigger attraction, yes, and you will get more phone numbers, more
dates and doors will open.

Ever had this one happen to you... ?

Tue Sep 2, 2008, 4:49 AM
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  • Eating: Your Neck
  • Drinking: You with Champagne
A woman writes to you online...

She's attractive. Her profile is pretty good. Cool job.
Good family. Kinda racy and exciting. Kinda funny. Seems
pretty smart and adventurous...

So you send a couple of emails back and forth. She's witty!
She cracks a couple of racy jokes. Your start to fantasize.
You're gonna meet for a glass of wine. She's gonna show up
in high boots and a short skirt.

She walks in and the room just absolutely stops. You had no
idea how hot she was! Her pictures didn't do her justice.
You watch her hips as she swishes across the room to you,
the bounce of her hair, the gleaming smile spreading across
her face as your eyes meet. . .

She flows into you and greets you with a kiss on the cheek.

Contact.

She sits and you gaze into her big almond eyes. You're
already picturing leaning her against the throw pillows on
her couch at home, slipping off her long boots (her feet, of
course, in your fantasy, smell like gardenias). . .

In your mind, you're already unbuttoning her taunting little
checkered blouse when. . .

. . . she opens her mouth.

And doesn't shut it! She talks about her day. She talks
about her previous no-good boyfriend. And the
sneaky-cheating boyfriend before that. And then about her
girlfriends and how they've let her down. And her dog. Her
freakin' shedding, yapping, mangy, patchy, smelly, stubbly,
drooling rat-of-a-dog and she doesn't stop for two full
hours!

Sound good?

No?

Well, I've got news for you. . .

Turn the story around because this is more or less how
YOU'VE probably been coming off to women.

How do I know? They tell me. In droves. Girls in their
20's. Women in their thirties and forties. Hell, my MOM
called me this week to tell me her 72 year old friend's
first online date was a disaster because all the guy did was
TALK ABOUT HIMSELF.

Tallinn!

Fri Aug 29, 2008, 9:41 AM
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Hello guys just little but big update on my life, this what happen in the last 7 days.

I took a boat trip to Estonia, Tallinn at 21th aug 2008 I was with a homie of mine
We rented apartment in the old town for one night in the central city. it was all cool, but my homie drank to much and was very aggresive behavour, I had to drop him off, I went to club by my self, he was blowed out my a girl, and had total AFC bahavour and also of hes behavour got into a fight, so I went to this club called "SEDUCTION"

one of the best in whole tallinn, and I had many number close outs and very successful night.


Here where it cames down to, I had no place to stay becuase I saw him pick up some blond girl, who later gave him blowjob at our place. So I called hes contacts he called from my phone to see if I could stay somewhere else.


I called two girls I think, and the other one who was at our place earlier said ok u can stay at my place take this adres and give to the cab driver, then I was there and no problem it was hot )))).


My homie did not knew about this couple days. Then when he got back to Sweden on sunday or monday not sure, had no contact with him we broke up and have no communication on all.


So on wensday I went with her on this bar called "ISLAND"


to hang out with this girl and her friends, I went to hairdresser and I did shop alot I had lots of bags of famous designers and had very sexy hair style (my new me).


So when I entred the bar I played out the metagame, becuase the 3 second rule is not always the best by choise, I smiled when I got in, and littary all people in the bar had EYES ON ME!!!! I keeped it smooth and happy state when I continuted to the bar disk to order me a White Russian to chill down.



Nights goes on and I go to a 3 set with 2 girls of hb 10 and a guy, I open up the guy and total ignore the girls, we play with this guy named Oscar from finland. Cool guy we played togheter the two girls and had fun.


The girl I stayed with where I lived, got mad as hell and left me and went home, living me with all the girls and shopping bags haha fucker!!!


anyway couple minutes later I gamble a new 4 set who cames out, then I saw another girl who was quite nice energy levels, so I see when she is going outside for the smoke and I fallow her to smoke my cigar like I always do.



We talked a little and did some kino, then I got her number, I call her on the next day, and we are meeting up at midnight with 2 other guys Valera and Roman who I also meet at island.


We talked more and I walked her way to the bus station where we also took a ciggarete togheter.



Then yesterday I saw her also at the same resturant she is working as bartender, and the guy over there italian one got jealous as fuck hah!!!


I fallowed her home and we took the cab to her place. and now im actually waiting for her to meet up with me at 19 15 pm, its 19.04 pm right now.


I stupidly forgot my wallet at her place.


so tomorrow we going to also to watch on the apartment togheter because she is cute she is helping me out with this.

Simple ways to become more attractive

Journal Entry: Thu Jul 31, 2008, 1:59 PM
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More tips on seduction and this secret life style on [link] or msn: massagekungen@hotmail.com

1- Get in shape: Any guy can get any girl, yes, this is true. But, it doesn't help your game if your overweight or scrawny. This doesn't mean turn into a meathead muscle machine but get yourself into a routine, the internet is a huge resource to find out information about getting into the perfect shape. Hell, if you don't do it for the women, do it for yourself. Your body deserves to be treated correctly. Run, jog, swim, lift weights, watch what you eat, stop smoking cigs, don't drink as much, don't do drugs as much. A woman loves a man who is physically attractive, once again, your body isn't going to get you the girl, your brain and what you say is. But it will surely HELP. Shit, if you really need help, message me and I'll help you out.

2- Get the correct amount of sleep: Doing so will not only improve the way you look, it will improve your memory and all other brain functions. In turn, making you wittier, funnier, cockier, WHATEVER. Also...it will keep you from getting sick. I can't tell you how many girls I've blown it with cause I was sick and gave it to them. Its such a turn off, both ways.

3- Change your hairstyle: Go for something new, if it doesn't work, it'll fucking grow back. Don't go for the run of the mill buzz-cut or slicked hair. Go to the barber shop and look in a magazine and find something. Trust me, it'll work. Facial hair as well, grow out some sideburns, cut them off, grow a goatee, cut it off, go clean shaved, or try looking scruffy. You'll find something that works for you.

4- Get some new clothes: As much as I don't like buying into the fashion world, girls do. So get some new outfits, even if it isn't your style, you'd be surprised what a couple new threads will do for your confidence and the ladies love it, even if you don't. Besides they will be on your floor soon enough.

5- Educate yourself: Instead of spending 3 hours a day sitting in the PUA forums and reading new bullshit canned methods. Pick up a book, newspaper, or internet article and educate yourself. Women love smart men, thats a fact. You don't have to be an Einstein but shit, I've heard countless AFC's bitching "my life is boring, i don't have anything to talk about, blah blah blah". This is in your hands, you'll have plenty to talk about if you just read 3 books on psychology, history, science, current events, or whatever else you find intriguing. Reading not only furthers your knowledge, it enhances your vocabulary, which again you don't need to be fucking Webster's dictionary, but eliminating "that sucks" and "cool..." and "nice..." and "kinda..." other countless boring words from your speech and replacing them with advanced words makes you more attractive. You can count on that. In addition, reading will further your ability to speak properly and aid in your grammar. Nobody likes to be around the guy that says "like" and "uhhh..." and other filler words every 15 seconds when he is speaking. You wanna be attractive? Intelligence is one quality EVERY SINGLE GIRL will list when asked about what they look for in a guy. Its not that hard, seriously. Helpful for DHV and witty negs and almost everything else.

6- Mirror effective personalities: Now, don't be a mirror of effective personalities...but mirror their good qualities and add them to your arsenal. Whether its a T.V. character who has a good cocky/funny attitude or someone you meet who you just thought was an interesting person. Nobody on this Earth is a completely original person, everything we say and do is picked up by others, usually subconsciously. So be conscious of it, and you'll find great success. For example, I mirrored many of the qualities that a character named Dr. Cox on the T.V. Show Scrubs displays. DHV, Negs, Etc.

7- Talents: Everyone has a few, find them. DHV.

8- Work on your manners: I have seen dozens upon dozens of random guys and even my friends blow it with a gorgeous girl because they didn't cover their mouth when they sneezed or coughed. Say Bless you, Thank you, Your welcome, Hold doors open for people, let someone walk in front of you instead of being the jerk who pushes through. There are dozens of common courtesies that many people just forget to do. At the end of the day, a girl wants a man she can be proud to be around, and one that will treat her with the respect she deserves. Don't lose your cocky attitude or whatever your gameplan is, but be a genuinely respectful person and it will surely pay off. Mega DHV.

9- Develop your knowledge and skills in interesting areas of human interest:

Magic Tricks - I don't know any, but I can shuffle a deck of cards 8 different ways, and when I play beer games at college girls are amazed that there are more than 2 ways to shuffle a deck. Instant conversation starter and attention grabber. DHV.

Tarot Cards/Runes - Even though I have grown to hate them from doing so many reads, I keep a deck visible in my room at all times. They cost no more than25 bucks and it comes with a book. It'll take you a few weeks to get the hang of them, but do it anyway. Countless girls have been dazzled by my reads on them. I've even done reads on guys at a party and had a group of girls waiting in line to be next. Cut it off and tell them you'll do it later, they will bug you for your attention and wait for you while you walk away and go interact with someone else. Definite DHV.

Astrology: Pick up a couple books on astrology (I recommend Sextrology and Astrologically Incorrect for Lovers). Learn your sign and the general details on womens signs, you won't need to learn any other guy ones obviously. I've gamed countless women with just asking them when their birthday is, don't ask the sign, know what dates correspond and you'll knock her socks off. Tell her some vague qualities of her sign, it works every god damn time. DHV and mega-useful tool.

Psychology: I go to college, and I honestly couldn't even give you a ballpark figure on how many women are psych majors. You don't have to be Seigmand Frued, but if you can hold an intellectual conversation with a women about psychology she'll love you forever. They don't even have to be a psych major, all girls love psychology, its what they DO. They are natural psychologists. Even if you don't use it to converse about, use it to your advantage, you'll be able to read social situations 100s of times better with even a basic understanding of psychological theories. DHV and mega-useful tool.

Philosophy: It will open your mind in more ways than you can imagine in turn making you a more intelligent being. DHV bigtime.

Sports: Some girls love sports. Even if you hate them, know something about them. 30 minutes of ESPN.com won't kill you. If you don't use it with a sports chick, use it to disarm the 5 guys that are surrounding her. DHV, sometimes other times just a useful tool.

Pop-Culture: As much as it sickens me, know who's having who's baby and why they just broke up. It will come in handy, somehow. DHV? Probably not, but learn it anyway, its not complicated.

Politics: Again, you'd be surprised how many women are Political Science majors. Myself, I love politics, some people hate it. But if you can converse or even school a girl on the current political disaster we call our government. She will find you attractive. (Warning: Some people get very heated while engaged in political debates, never loose your cool because you'll just look like a jackass.) Again, DHV.

Music: Develop your taste in music to include more than shitty mainstream rappers and pop music. Listen to all types of music, my old roommate knew the words to more songs than I can even begin to name. Everything from Johny Cash to N*Sync, seriously, his current girlfriend was so amazed by his musical variety that I think that was their first deep conversation. Thats got DHV written all over it.

Interesting General Facts: Learn interesting facts of all types. If you meet a girl from Alaska, "Did you know that the Alaskan coastline makes up more than half of the entire US coastline?" I met a woman from Rio de Janeiro, Brazil the other night and told her how much I loved the statue of Christ the Redeemer that sits atop the Corcovado Mountain and how beautiful the view is looking down into the city. She was absolutely stunned that I even knew that it was there, I didn't even have to tell her that I have never actually been there. She was too busy drowning in my words as I continued the conversation. Simple shit like this will separate you from the other 100 guys she sees and meets that day.

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Well, thats all for now, I'm sure theres 100's of other things, that I hope you all add as you think of them. I will add more when I get the time, but for now my fingers are tired. Hope this helps.

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